“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practised, and mastered — just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” - Barrie Davenport
You can wear the most fashionable clothes in the world, be drop-dead-gorgeous, have a perfect figure, great education and a good job, but if you don’t believe in yourself you’ll never feel satisfied and you won’t make any progress. Fortunately, self-confidence isn’t something you are born with. It is a skill that takes time to develop, practice and master, but once you get there you’ll see that nothing is impossible. Here are some tips that will help you feel better in your skin (and look cool while you’re at it).
Find Your “Mojo”
The fashion industry and mainstream media are constantly pushing an image of the perfect woman, at least how they are picturing her, and more often than not, that picture is unrealistic or simply not appealing to everyone. The first thing you’ll have to do is stop trying to be that woman, and discover who you really are. Think about what you like, what you don’t like, what are your best assets, what do you want to become… Find the things that make you feel great, and enjoy them.
Find Something that Singles You Out from the Crowd
This shouldn’t be so hard. It can be a distinct physical feature – e.g. full lips, strikingly green eyes, long legs, sexy collarbones, etc. On the other hand, it can be something associated with your personality. Are you the funny one? The emotional one? A good listener? You might also have different interests than most of the people you know, such as love for French movies or passion for dancing.
Build Your Fashion Sense
If you dress for the crowd, you can never be confident. If you dress for yourself, you can feel good about your body, which will - in return - reflect in physical indicators of self-confidence: good posture, smiling and using open gestures. Explore various fashion styles and see which one matches your personality. Also, try to dress according to your body type, so that you enhance your best assets and hide those areas you dislike. Make sure you always have a couple of statement pieces like a go-to dress, a leather jacket, great pants, and a killer tee.
Take Care of Yourself
Devoting time to regular self-nourishing will surely contribute to self-confidence boost, not only because you will look better, but also because you will appreciate yourself enough to do that. This means that every time you wash your hair you need to apply a balm and a nourishing hair mask and seal the moisture in. It also includes a consistent skincare regimen. A balanced diet (not starving yourself) and a healthy dose of physical activities (a simple daily walk) can also mean a lot for your health, wellbeing and therefore self-confidence.
Face Your Fears and Take the Fall
The most efficient way to build self-confidence is to face your fears. If you afraid of speaking in public – join up for a stand-up comedy night or karaoke. If you are afraid of talking to boys – go out and set a goal of approaching three guys for one evening. If you freeze at the very hearing of the unknown – go travel someplace alone. It will not always turn out as you hoped it would, and sometimes the thing that you’ve feared the most can actually happen, but that is the lesson – failure is not the end. It is a possibility to learn and evolve. To quote Batman’s butler: “Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up”.
Knowing who you are and appreciating yourself for it will make you care less about other people’s opinions, which will make you more stable and focused on yourself. In return, you will feel and look better – perks which can only make you thrive both professionally and personally.
About the author:
Tracey Clayton is a full-time mom of three girls. She’s passionate about fashion, home décor and healthy living. Her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.”